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Oct 19
2 min

Emotional Incest

Okay... so this seems like a yucky title. The idea of incest is appalling to most people and so the idea of emotional incest is equally a...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Oct 13
3 min

I'm a Working Mother

I am mom to two amazing elementary-aged boys who are distance-learning and, recently, participating in a few extra curricular activities....

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Jul 23
2 min

Pandemic Loop

This is a short film made by a brilliant teen in Canada, Liv McNeil. She has called it Numb. I was called to watch it by a Huffington Pos...

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Dear Parents of Distance Learner Who Checks Out,

Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Jul 9
3 min

Dear Parents of Distance Learner Who Checks Out,

I see you. You spent last Spring fighting. Pleading. Begging. You've bought hundreds of dollars of electronic equipment, furniture and ga...

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Jun 30
2 min

My June

It has been a long, long time since I have sat down to add to this blog. And, I am thinking, my absence kinda parallels what we have all ...

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Jun 2
2 min

Racism and Protests

I thought writing a blog about George Floyd and racism and protests and our children would be easy. There is so much to say. So many word...

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May 22
2 min

Virtual Camps!

Virtual Camp. Ugh. I can hear the collective groan now. Summer camps are supposed to be running and jumping and field trips to the nearby...

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May 20
2 min

Grief

We are grieving. Individually and collectively- as families, as cities and as a country. There is this idea that grief is a feeling that ...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

May 14
3 min

Summer Is Coming

I have good news and bad news for you: summer is almost here and your kids' distance-learning school year is almost at an end. This sound...

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Distance Learning without Losing Your Mind

Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Apr 20
5 min

Distance Learning without Losing Your Mind

It was recently announced that we are doing this distance learning thing until the end of the school year. I think some teachers may have...

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Apr 15
2 min

Tele-therapy!

It's been a month since my last blog entry and a lot has happened. Covid-19 has necessitated some pretty significant social distancing, s...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Mar 12
3 min

Kids and COVID-19

COVID-19 is a Coronavirus (there are several types of Coronavirus) that is currently spreading across the world. According to the World H...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Mar 2
3 min

Sleep and Snacks

We all know, when our kids are very little, that maintaining naps and keeping a snack station in our diaper bag is critical to our kids' ...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Feb 19
3 min

My Kid Doesn't Want Therapy

This has been a subject for discussion for me lately. The scenario goes like this: a parent calls me because their child is defiant or an...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Feb 6
1 min

Play Therapy Week 2020

February 2nd through 8th is Play Therapy Week. The Association for Play Therapy (APT) is a national organization (to which I belong) that...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Jan 24
3 min

ACEs Screening in California

A huuuuuuge research study (like 17,000 participants) was conducted in the mid-nineties in California. The researchers were trying to und...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Jan 10
2 min

joshsbenches.com

This past weekend I went to a local park for some much-needed personal nature therapy. As I came around a corner of the nature center (wh...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Jan 9
2 min

Emotions and Feelings Wheels

Many of the families with whom I work struggle with identifying feelings. Unless you were raised by a therapist 😉, chances are good that...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Jan 7
1 min

Happy New Year

Every year during the holiday break from school, I take some time off. I see some families, especially those who have a more difficult ti...

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Autumn Quiles, LCSW

Dec 16, 2019
4 min

When to End Therapy

There is a whole lot of advice floating around about when you need to start therapy. It's almost like people throw out "get a therapist" ...

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